I am socially awkward at times. It's not something I really thought about until I had to attend
a webinar about ADHD. It was being considered that one of our children had ADHD, but it turns out that I do too. I remember sitting there taking notes, not thinking of my children at all. Instead, thinking, Oh my goodness, that's me!!!
Funny what you notice when you know it's there. I now realise how I jump to interrupt people when they're speaking, how I impulsively blurt things, how my thoughts are always written all over my face.
It goes way back, now I think of it. I know now to stop and think before I speak (usually!)but at the age of 11 or 12 I lacked carefulness. One Sunday morning at church, I recall a boy saying via a mutual friend that he liked me and would I "go out with him?" Well, he was a nice lad so I said yes. It was only some little while later on the same day he asked if he could sit beside me. At which point I panicked and then we were no longer "going out".
I wrote this with a very embarrassed remembering:
I was always sorry you know
that I broke your heart.
I had no skill to answer well
the situation.
I wonder if I have improved at all
these thirty years and more?
Socially haphazard
and prone to speak unthinking -
this was the sorry I couldn't ever say.
I'm not sure I actually broke his heart but I'm pretty sure I ruined his day.
So for anyone that knows me, if I ever put my foot in it, please extend me a little grace. I'm better than I used to be but still learning.
The good side of this is, if I like you and appreciate you in my life, I'll probably tell you so...
Heather Williamson
Poetry on roots, love, life and faith

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